You’ve heard it over and over, “Trust Your Intuition” or your gut. This is a lesson all of us learn over time until we simply believe and know what we’re feeling is true. You learn to look at the set of circumstances in front of you without your emotions attached to it.
When you lay out the facts:
John and Mary set up an appointment to meet and discuss a business project.
1. John missed the appointment, didn’t call to cancel or say he was going to be late.
2. Mary followed up with a phone call and John didn’t respond.
3. Mary sent a text and an email and John still didn’t respond.
4. John text Mary back with 2 days later, “Can we meet between 9pm-11pm any day next week.”
Do you gather something is wrong here? Do you get the feeling something isn’t quite right? Ding Ding you win because it is.
If you don’t live under a rock pretty much everyone knows to be courteous. To be respectful of others’ time as well as your own. To put forth the effort of putting your best foot forward and to dig deep enough to find out just what is going on.
After several attempts to contact someone and they continue to be unresponsive and then they ask to meet at a crazy time is a huge red flag! Don’t question it just move on and make a note to self. “Remember this!”
You will come across people in business or personal relationships that want something. It’s been my experience that when it feels icky or strange it probably is. When they ask for too much upfront beware!
I had a contractor in my food company that actually turned in their invoice (they worked at home) and I asked for their spreadsheet to review first. They actually said “oh I haven’t updated it to your request yet.” And my thought was “you’re billing me before the work’s done?” Yeah I don’t think so. I politely said, I can’t pay this until I receive the work. Attitude swept across the room like a tornado!
In my wildest dreams I would never, ever do this. Needless to say I didn’t hire her again and I went to a partner and said she’s not fit to do the job before she was hired and I said as much back then. I said “I no longer need her services.” They decided to have her work for them in their department. Funny two months later they said she did the same to them. Stop it, really? Say it ain’t so!
My gut was right upon the first meeting yet our company got taken for $2500 in labor costs with virtually nothing to show for it. I’m able to see right through slick talkin, really don’t want to work but want a paycheck kinda people.
On an interview I had someone ask me the first question, “When do I get paid?” Ha ha I’m like “Never, you have asked all the questions I need to know about you. Thanks and good luck to you.”
And on the other side of the coin there are those people that lay low. I met a young man that through his writing was well versed. Yet getting him on the phone or to respond to an email was like pulling hair. Finally upon meeting he was not highly dressed and very unassuming. Yet he opened his mouth and WOW! I was impressed with his knowledge and understanding of a given area of expertise. I asked him directly “Why was it so hard to get together”. His reply was “I’m not that confident meeting new people.” Here is when I went ahead and looked deeper. Even though it was bit more difficult to get to meet him in person there was a “gut feeling” in the way that he wrote.
After meeting and potentially working on an upcoming project he called to say he could give me 3 more references. I said “I don’t need anymore other than the one I checked and your responses to my questions.” Basically a good guy and really eager to learn, contribute and build someone’s product line. If I don’t have a project you can bet I’ll refer him.
So in closing trust your feelings and investigate long enough to make an informed decision. The decision can be move away from this person or move closer and find out more. Should you need to build confidence check out our Power & Confidence CD and Happy gut trusting!
Tanya